Seven ways to raise awareness of violence against women
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(WOMENSENEWS)–As a 20-something, I spent the last night of my first live-in relationship locked in my car, trying to stay warm and awake. A typical argument with my partner escalated. I had learned to read the tightening in his jaws and shoulders as indicators that physical violence was coming. Before he could lunge at me, I was out the door and into the car. I had had enough. I was luckier than most women because I had a car, job, credit card and bank account that made leaving possible.
For me, the physical violence in my relationship evoked too many painful memories of my childhood. One of my earliest memories is of a large crashing sound waking me up. My father had thrown a large glass bowl at my mother and it broke through the plasterboard.
In my memory, it came through the wall into my room. This incident precipitated sleeping problems, nightmares and night terrors that I have had for my whole life. A light sleeper, I jump from bed at slight noises ready to hide or flee.
My family life was filled with violence. My sister and I were ever vigilant, gauging the tension when we came home from school, the anger level at dinner and how much alcohol was consumed so that we could protect ourselves. Often if my step-father had been drinking all day, I would slip quietly through the back door, down the stairs and into my room.
Now imagine my story multiplied by nearly 5 million U.S. children who are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, with 4.4 million witnessing this violence in their families.
Globally, the U.N. estimates 35 percent of women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence in their lives.
Annual Campaign
This is why the United Nations’ theme for this year’s 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence was #orangetheworld. Orange was chosen by U.N. Undersecretary General Phumzile-Mlambo and her colleagues to symbolize a brighter future without violence.
This annual campaign, which ends on International Human Rights Day each year on Dec. 10, makes a big difference. It aims to build public awareness about violence against women through marches and rallies, raising money for programs and services for victims of violence and, this year, oranging public buildings and spaces.
Awareness is a must for much-needed change. Although the U.N. Declaration on the Elimination of Violence against Women was signed 23 years ago, the international statistics are staggering. Here are some to consider:
- There is great variation across countries, but some national studies indicate that up to 70 percent of women experience violence from an intimate partner. One in 10 girls (120 million) experience forced sexual acts and 1-in-4 girls say that they never feel comfortable using school latrines.
- About half the women murdered each year are killed by intimate partners or family members compared to only 6 percent of men. Vulnerable groups (girls, disability status, low income, sexuality) experience more violence.
- In the European Union, 1-in-3 women with a health problem or disability report experiencing physical or sexual violence compared to 1-in-5 women without health or disability issues.
In the United States the figures are similar, as 30 percent of women have been physically abused by an intimate partner and only one third of these women receive medical treatment for injuries that they experience. Around 20 percent of women here experience sexual assault in their lives, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
Behind each of these statistics is a story of fear and harm.
Raising Awareness
Besides international campaigns such as the recent U.N. one, what you can do to raise awareness? There are lots of options, such as:
- Tell your own story; listen to others’ stories.
- Buy book about peace, kindness, reconciliation for a local school or library.
- Help publicize efforts in your community to end violence against women, such as a Take Back the Night march or Domestic Violence Month in October.
- Use social media to raise awareness about violence against women and programs working to end it.
- Donate things to local shelters that they make need (blankets, towels, personal items, food).
- Attend public forums about policing, public safety, changes in law, sexual harassment and stalking.
- Give to organizations working for an end to violence against women.
- Call if you need help 24/7 at 1.800.799.SAFE (7233).
The world I want to pass on to my daughters and grandchildren is one without violence against women, one that’s different than what I’ve experienced in the past. It will take more than 16 days of activism each year to accomplish this, but we can take steps each day to make a more peaceful world.