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Facts about Abuse

People think that women who are abused ask for it or provoke it in some way.
THIS IS NOT TRUE.
Many people think that if a woman is abused, it is because she nags a lot, or answers back and needs to be put in her place. But no one asks to be abused. Abusers must be responsible for their own behaviour.

* Read more Facts About Abuse and what you can do to help

Poetry

During their stay in the shelter, the women have many opportunities to talk about their experiences and express their feelings, to their counsellor or to one another. Sometimes it helps to write it down…



Poem of appreciation

We all have our doubts and from time to time we all
        lose our way;
but to be fully human is to believe in something or
          someone,
to know that it’s possible to face the unimaginable and
somehow to put one foot in front of the other until you
      manage to find your home again.

I was filled with an overwhelming sense of gratitude as
  I was reminded of the beauty and strength that exist
in me. We are all so different, yet similar and yet when
we are weak, we need to remember that we are never
      alone, that this too shall pass.

How I experience my life and the things that happen
to me is always from the inside out. I have become a
stronger person and that is what I learnt here at the
shelter. I will always be grateful to the staff of Saartjie
Baartman for all they have done for me and my kids.

Shelter resident.

 
I AM FREE!!

Too many traumas, heartaches, bitterness, sadness, loneliness are in my life
Today it must come to an end; today I have risen above my circumstances
Today is my day I am not in his house any more, although I have nothing now

I AM FREE !!

 
TRONKE SONDER TRALIES (Prisons without bars)

Terwyl ek in die supermark na die gesigte om
My kyk, wonder ek hoeveel siele is soos myne in `n
Tronk sonder tralies - `n tronk van emosionele en verbale    geweld.
Hoeveel voete in fyn skoene het ook weer die bewaarder met    wie
Ons getroud is se landmyn afgetrap. Die tronk het nie deure vir
Privaatheid nie. Hoeveel vroue is daagliks blootgestel aan die    hale
Van `n siele-verwrokker se tong. Ek bid vir almal in tronke,
Die met en sonder deure.

(Prisons without bars
I look around me at the faces in the supermarket
And wonder how many are souls like mine - in a prison without    bars,
A prison of emotional and verbal violence.
How many fine-shod feet have also trod
The landmine laid by the prison guard we have married?
The prison doesn't have doors for privacy.
How many women are daily tongue-lashed and stripped bare
By the destroyer of their souls?
I pray for everyone in prisons
Those with and without doors.)